Rings in lesbian culture are more than just accessories—they can be symbols of identity, pride, and community. From the early 20th century, when working-class lesbians quietly wore pinky rings as markers of their identity, to today’s bold sapphic designs, rings have become a key way to say, “Yes, I’m fruity,” in a way that feels authentic. For queers, especially femmes, who don’t present as obviously sapphic, these rings may be vital for signaling visibility, connection, and pride.
Some of these lesbian rings will feature queer symbols, sapphic colors, or lesbian-coded designs, each carrying its own history and/or cultural meaning. Today, a lot of us know that one way to identify a lesbian is by all the rings on her fingers. So whether you want to make a bold statement or keep it subtle, rings can offer a stylish way to express or embrace your identity. I’ll showcase some of the best designs, perfect for making your own mark on the sapphic fashion scene.
And let’s be honest—wearing overt symbols of queerness isn’t always possible in every space. That’s where coded rings come in. These pieces let you express your pride without drawing unwanted attention, allowing you to connect with those in the know while flying under the radar.
Lesbian Rings with Lesbian Symbols & Signaling
The Triangle Ring
The triangle, once a symbol of Nazi oppression during World War II, has since been reclaimed as a marker of resilience and pride. Similar to how Jewish people were forced to wear yellow stars, gay men in concentration camps were made to wear downward-pointing pink triangles on their shirts to identify and dehumanize them. Black triangles were also used, marking “asocial” individuals, including prostitutes and lesbians. Intended initially as badges of shame, these symbols have been transformed into powerful icons of defiance and solidarity.
- ★ If you’re thinking of something unique for a couple’s ring, consider this sophisticated yet modern geometric triangle ring, which mixes textures and metals, including rose, white, and yellow gold. It’s from a queer-friendly shop that uses a portion of all their sales of this ring to the Legal Network for Gender Equity. It can also serve as a very unique lesbian engagement ring.
- But if you’re more into a minimalist vibe, here is a simple black onyx triangle ring. With its sharp, geometric lines and deep, moody onyx centerpiece, this ring makes its statement in silver or gold—without having to shout.
Lavender & Violet Rings
The colors lavender and violet (and flowers) have long been intertwined with lesbian and broader queer history. Sappho, the ancient Greek poet from Lesbos, whose queer existence gave rise to the terms “lesbian” and “sapphic,” frequently referenced violet flowers in her poetry to symbolize love between women. These associations carried into the 20th century when lavender became a subtle code for queerness. In the 1950s, during the Lavender Scare, thousands of gay men and women were legally fired from government jobs.
Then, Betty Friedan, who wrote the famous Feminine Mystique, labeled lesbians a “lavender menace,” fearing their presence would harm the feminist movement. In response, lesbian activists reclaimed the term, transforming it into a symbol of resistance during the 1970s, wearing lavender-colored t-shirts with “Lavender Menace” emblazoned on them. This reclamation continued into the Stonewall marches, where lavender was carried as a banner of queer pride.
Additionally, violets were an important symbol in early 1900s lesbian circles, particularly in Paris, where women wore violets as a coded expression of same-sex love. After Edouard Bourdet’s 1926 play The Captive, women in the audience began wearing violets to signal their identity. This practice solidified the connection between violets and lesbian culture, further enhanced by the actions of groups like the Lavender Menace. Once associated with stigma and oppression, the colors blossomed into enduring symbols of solidarity, empowerment, and pride for lesbians.
- If you’re after an engagement ring that whispers classic elegance but still winks at your queer pride, this lavender oval sapphire ring is the one. And did you know Sapphires are actually rarer than diamonds?
- To make a luxurious and unique statement, GET YOUR GIRL THIS lavender hexagon sapphire ring from Gardens of the Sun. It’s stunning in rose gold with a sharp 3.69-carat lavender sapphire in a striking hexagon cut. Oh my god! ★
Romantic gift-giving tip: For purple gemstones, skip amethyst. It’s considered one of the most common. Go for more unique ones like lavender jade, iolite, tanzanite, and fluorite.
Double Woman/Venus Symbol Ring
Using the classic symbol for women, which is also the sign for the planet Venus, and then intertwining both woman signs is an easy marker of lesbian love and solidarity.
- Here is a subtle minimalistic tiny double Venus ring in 14K or 18K gold. Not into gold? No problem. Here’s a tinier silver version of this double Venus ring.
- For a thicker look, here’s an adjustable double Venus lesbian ring from the LGBTQ+ merch store Pride Shack. Rhodium-plated, adjustable, and ready to roll with whatever your day throws at you.
- For those leaning toward a more masc style, here is a band-style sterling silver double Venus ring with engraved intertwined symbols for women.
Sapphic Snake Ring
Somehow, the snake has slithered its way into the sapphic community as a Gen-Z symbol. It doesn’t really have the deep historical roots of, say, the rainbow flag. But culturally, I’ve noticed its explosion among sapphic women in tattoos, necklaces, and rings.
Snakes shed their skin, a total metaphor for transformation and rebirth—something most of us queer folks can relate to. Their movement? Fluid, just like the beautiful spectrum of gender, sexuality, and identity.
Even in Greek mythology, there’s Medusa, who is a huge feminist icon with the snakes on her head.
- For quiet luxury, this small but gorgeously crafted snake ring is stunning. It’s from a queer-owned shop in NYC that’s size-inclusive and advocates for trans and indigenous rights. Exactly where I want my money to go! Crafted in 14k gold with options in yellow, white, rose, or even champagne gold, this piece wraps around your finger in the most understated yet chic way. They also sell the earring versions of this too, which I’m saving up for!
- For a thicker, more chappy/soft masc-ish design, check out this snake ring with an apple. Inspired by the Garden of Eden, this gold vermeil ring features a serpent looking at an apple, with branches engraved along the band.
- Next, this double-headed snake ring is elegant and femme. Available in gold or silver, the twisted design has two snake heads that flow up and down.
- ★ Back to mascs, the texture in this snakeskin ring is uniquely stunning. In silver or gold, the ring’s intricate snakeskin pattern gives it an elevated rustic look.
- And for those of you who like a ring with a little extra bite (literally), this adjustable ouroboros snake ring in gold brass or sterling silver really stands out, with the snake protruding and showing its fangs. Perfect for the black cat lesbians.
- Finally, for the goth-ish lesbian, this snake steel piece is made of coiled stainless steel, as this snake spirals upward, adding a mystical edge to your look. For a smaller one, check out this adjustable snake ring, handmade in Greece with sterling silver 925° and gold plating.
The Lesbian Flag Colors Ring
The lesbian flag offers a blend of gorgeous colors like fierce oranges, deep pinks, and sultry. Each stripe has its own story: gender nonconformity (dark orange), independence (orange), community (light orange), and a nod to all the ways we redefine womanhood (white). Then there’s serenity and peace (soft pink), and of course, we couldn’t forget my favorites for love, passion, and a little something sexy (dusty pink and dark rose).
- This resin lesbian pride ring is just that, vibrant and young. These colors are perfect for those who like a playful pop of color.
- For something a little more handmade and toy-like, this beaded lesbian flag colors ring made by this young enby creative is fruity, unique, and fun. Beaded accessories are very in right now!
Scissors Ring
Ah, the scissor symbol—what started as a cheeky, slightly eyebrow-raising nod to the intimate sapphic act—has evolved into a playful, iconic emblem in lesbian cultural reference.
Note: Scissoring is kind of controversial, too. It gets a lot of male-gaze airtime in the media and the four letter p word. However, many sapphics argue that it’s not real while others swear by it. It’s also a teeny drop in the ocean of lesbian intimacy, with many queers rarely ever even using it. So it’s a bit of a stereotype that doesn’t do justice to the rich and varied ways lesbians connect and experience physical intimacy. But like other symbols here, it’s also reclaimed by many as a symbol of pride.
- ★ This scissor ring is simply gorgeous. The craftsmanship, detail in the scissor, and quality of the metals (silver, gold, or rose gold plated brass) give it a sleek, understated design.
Dyke Ring
There’s something undeniably fierce about reclaiming the word “dyke.” What was once spat at us as a slur for masculine women has been flipped into a badge of honor for sapphics. Its origins? A little hazy. Some trace it back to “bulldyke,” but honestly, that’s not the point. Today, “dyke” is all about owning your queerness with unapologetic confidence.
Enter Amy Spalding. You might know her as the beloved femme-for-femme lesbian we all rooted for on the sapphic dating show I Kissed a Girl, and now she’s channeling that same vibrance into jewelry with her line, SLT Studios.
- Her silver DYKE ring is uniquely handmade to order; no two rings are exactly the same—each crafted from high-quality sterling 925 silver with “DYKE” stamped in unapologetic all caps. She also offers it in 9ct gold.
Rainbow Colors Ring
Of course there is the classic LGBTQ+ rainbow. The classic unapologetic love letter to diversity, inclusion, and every dazzling shade of queer identity.
- For a teeny tiny whisper of queerness, this tri-color rainbow ring is minimalist with a dainty band in 14k gold—yellow, white, rose, or even champagne—featuring a delicate tri-color rainbow. It’s also an easy lesbian gift for the queer femme in your life.
- For the edgier, bolder lesbian, this iridescent domed rainbow ring is made from scratch-free tungsten carbide steel.
- And for the femmes who like bling with their pride, this mosaic rainbow sapphire and diamond LGBT ring is ready to steal the show. Also, how unique would this be as a wedding band? They also have the lesbian colors here.
The Word “Queer” Ring
Also once a slur for “weird” people who hold non-heteronormative identities, it’s now a word we’ve embraced, reshaped, and turned into a banner of pride. For many of us “queer” goes beyond sexuality, it’s a culture and way of thinking outside of the box. It’s sort of the anti-label.
- ★ This queer ring from women-owned and operated business Snash Jewelry makes that statement loud and proud, with the word in bold, unapologetic all caps. Me gusta!
Nautical Star Ring
Back in the ’40s and ’50s, the nautical star wasn’t just a trendy tattoo—it was a secret code for lesbians to signal their identity to other lesbians. According to Boots of Leather, Slippers of Gold the star, often discreetly inked on the wrist which could be hidden beneath a watch, was like an identifier. It was also flashing a quiet, “I’m here, and I see you,” to fellow queers in a world where being out was dangerous. But tattoos are forever. So if you’re not down to commit to ink, a nautical star ring is the perfect alternative!
- For something truly luxe, for all types of lesbians, this north star signet ring offers elegance with a touch of celestial drama. Crafted in sterling silver with 18K gold, pavé diamonds, and a rhodium finish, this ring features a silver and gold-colored star framed in a blue oval frame.
- If your style leans toward something a bit more chunky with that 90s silver, this thick pointed star ring in solid sterling silver is bold, unapologetic, and very lesbian.
- If you lean more masc, this big, square, dark thick north star ring has that rugged, biker-style aesthetic but with style. With a silver band and a star set against a black circle, it’s bold and confident.
Astrology Rings
Astrology and lesbian culture = 🤝. Astrology is a cheat sheet for connection, conversation, and maybe even a little relationship insight. Here are some fun examples.
- For instance, if you have Capricorn placements, this long-horn Capricorn ring exudes ambitious energy. Made from solid 925 sterling silver, it features long, dramatic horns that capture all the strength and determination of the sea goat.
- ★ But if you’re looking for something sleek with a big pop!? This handmade Capricorn ring literally stands out with the horns popping up, complete with intricate details.
- For bohemian gold, this sun ring’s sunburst design and a moldavite stone at the center radiate earthly and celestial vibes in equal measure. This one works if you’re a Leo, too!
- This moon and sun ring combines yin and yang, dark and light, with rustic 18k gold symbols of the sun and moon. This thick 925 silver band draws inspiration from Native American culture.
Handmade Chunky Rings
The best way to scream lesbian as a femme? Lots of chunky rings. These oversized, bold pieces are also a quiet rebellion against the idea that women should stick to dainty, delicate jewelry.
- For shiny classic elegance, this chunky silver ring—handmade in Greece from sterling silver—offers a double-bean design that’s sleek and stylish. This silver dome ring brings a similar style, but the domes can be stacked. Also crafted in sterling silver.
- If you want something more hammered and rustic, this spinner ring features three thin rings wrapped around a thicker sterling silver band.
- For day-to-day, I love to rock all of these silver rings handmade in Taxco, Mexico. You can buy them at Wakami, a women’s cooperative in Guatemala. Check them out in person next time you’re in the country!
Pro-Woman Feminist Rings
Women’s bodies have been shamed, seen as embarrassing, and something to be hidden by much of society. In response, many are turning shamed anatomy into empowerment.
- This vulva ring, crafted from recycled sterling silver—eco-friendly and handmade, it’s the perfect abstract tribute. Want to go a little bolder? This chunky vulva ring features a striking natural pink sapphire nestled in the vulva opening, unapologetically fierce.
- This boobie ring is available in gold, rose gold, or platinum, it features sparkling gemstones of your choice.
Feminine Love Rings
Whether it’s the face of Aphrodite, the softness of a WLW hug, or the beauty of the female body, these icons speak to the heart of sapphic love and pride.
- First up, the goddess face ring, featuring the legendary Aphrodite (aka Venus). This thick, bold piece comes in gold, rose gold, or sterling silver. It’s an homage to femme goddess energy.
- Then, there’s the kissing lesbians ring, which captures that delicious sapphic affection. Made from brass, sterling silver, or gold-plated finishes, it features two figures hugging and kissing. Along the same lines, but more subtle, this WLW hugging ring features two women embracing in a soft, sterling silver design; this partly twisted ring celebrates tenderness. Lastly, this sculptural lesbian spooning ring is crafted in sterling silver—a symbol of comfort, closeness, and quiet intimacy.