When I first stumbled upon TikTok in 2020, I had no idea what to expect. But as I scrolled, something caught me off guard—diverse stories, queer culture, education, and representation. It turns out TikTok wasn’t just a playground for funny trends; it was also a transformative stage for voices and stories that often went unheard by traditional media, including queer and lesbian TikTokers.
These TikTok creators weren’t just sharing snippets of their lives, but representing, celebrating, and taking control of our queer cultural narrative. From the speed of lesbian dating to the complexities of intersectionality, these sapphic/lesbian TikTok creators make us laugh, think, and feel seen in ways we hadn’t before. That’s the magic of Lesbian TikTok.
And these sapphic TikTokers don’t just reflect our culture—they also challenge and elevate it. Here are some of the most culturally influential queer and lesbian influencers right now.
Nicole Bloomgarden (@nicolebloomgarden)
Nicole (she/her), a Ghanaian-American TikTok creator, gives us an idea of what it’s like to be inside of a masc lesbian’s head through comedic yet honest storytelling! For instance, in this video, she shares how socially awkward lesbian dating—or even just approaching women—can be. In relatable situations like wondering to yourself, “Are they straight and just being friendly or are they hitting on me?” We often find our thoughts humorously represented in Nicole’s inner monologue.
In addition to Nicole’s funny creativity, she doesn’t shy away from showing vulnerability and sharing the evolution of her lesbian identity, again not just relatable but often helps the audience get to know themselves better. On the podcast Exes and O’s with Shannon Beveridge, she opened up about her ADHD, which she has shared funny yet realistic skits on how it affects her lesbian relationships, bringing representation to queer folks who juggle the same things.
From posting TikTok dance videos that eventually got her viral (and that she deleted), Nicole now continues to post about the lesbian experience. She also stands up for the queer community. She’s called out men who make lesbian couples uncomfortable and subtly exposed fellow lesbians who may have homophobic tendencies.
Chrys (@theqweeragenda)
Chrys (she/her) is proudly all about social justice, feminism, and educational commentary that make you feel seen while you laugh and cry with her. Her take on the viral debate of whether straight men are allowed in lesbian bars, stating, “Allowed? Yes. Welcomed? F*** no,” and then educated us why, so succinctly and passionately, explains her contributions to discussions on feminism and queer culture. In her most viewed video about consent when a man jumps into a women’s video touching her, she defends the women against a growing audience that was trying to defend the man, and spreading awareness to educate several millions.
As a gay Black woman, Chrys also highlights the importance and complexity of intersectionality. In this clip, she shared, “My existence is intersectional, so is my oppression. Putting certain parts on the backburner will always leave me marginalized in some way.” In another, she continued, “It is so necessary that we advocate for ourselves” because “allowing m************ to prioritize which parts of your identity they want to recognize first, will always leave some parts of you behind.”
While Chrys’ videos are often heavily serious commentaries about history, celebrities, sexual and mental health, politics, and social issues, she uses her platform for giving safe rules for sapphic intimacy, debunking myths about female anatomy, uncovering lesbian terms, and even sharing lighthearted personal thoughts such as her icks.
Eden & Jay (@edenxjay)
Married Latina sapphic couple Eden and Jay (she/her) have gone viral for their Mexican gay marriage video and their Oaxaca wedding, a big, public event in a very traditional part of the country that is steeped in indigenous heritage preservation! So many of our Latine hearts fluttered at the sight of such representation and affirmation in the community. You can see Eden’s viral wedding vow here.
But even more impactful? They host one of the biggest Latinx queer womxn reggaeton parties: Preciosa Night! They host it in cities around the country from NYC to LA.
They also share content on family planning, travel, banter, relationship tips, and more! They’re also beloved activists in our community. As the reality of family planning for same-sex couples further pushes them to advocate for The Equality Act and continue to share their story. A simple meet-up on Hinge blessed us all with this inspirational lesbian power couple!
Made It Out (@madeitoutpodcast)
Probably the BEST lesbian podcast to listen to right now, especially if you’re a baby queer or a late bloomer lesbian who’s still learning or relearning a LOT about yourself. Mal Glowenke (she/her), is a “recovering Texas-raised lesbian” and now an L.A. transplant who shares invaluable candid conversations with fellow lesbian/queer figures from all walks of life. From your first with a girl to dating a girl with anxious attachment style to the complexities of gender expression and beyond.
But she also represents an underrepresented segment in lesbians: the millenial femme. Many of us were raised to think that being a lesbian culturally meant Ellen or Rosie, which is why we didn’t realize we were gay until the 2020s lesbian renaissance.
“As soon as someone comes out as gay, that becomes the main focus of their identity. They’re no longer the funny friend or athletic friend. They’re the gay friend.” Such conversations provide deeper nuance and visibility of our own identities and understanding our feelings as we move through a heteronormative society.
Other guests also share their stories about grief, internalized homophobia, the importance of lesbian representation, first WLW heartbreaks, lesbian defining moments, and more! Thank you to the Made It Out podcast for being a safe space for helping normalize conversations like this. New episodes come out every Tuesday!
Madison Ryan (@itsmadisonryan)
Madison’s (she/her) openly shares her coming out experience and being a later-in-life-lesbian, as well as her thoughts on compulsory heterosexuality and feminism. Some eye-opening feminist thoughts include anti-suffragette propaganda, how patriarchy affects men’s views of women, and she went viral explaining that hate toward cats is often tied to sexism–TRUE!
She explains one of the reasons it took her so long to figure out her queerness was because she misunderstood what attraction really was. She explained, “It caused me to mistake wanting attention with being attracted to men. It wasn’t until I started dating my now girlfriend at age 25 that I started to get a concept of what attraction was. I remember being shocked at the feeling I had for her. I was like, ‘I feel like I’m a magnet. I’m having a magnetic pull to be with her all the time… I never felt that way before about a man”
In another video, Madison opened up about how traumatizing being a later-in-life lesbian can be. She confessed, “I literally cried uncontrollably for 2 weeks because I realized how unsafe I had felt all the times that I had had s*x with men. And I dated men long-term multiple times before realizing I was queer. And now I’m in the most incredible relationship with a woman and it just constantly reminds me how much s*** I went through because I thought that I liked men…. realizing that I don’t like men was such a harder thing to process and still is ‘cause it really just feels like all the pain and suffering was for nothing.” So relatable!
Madison also talked about how different her past relationships with men were compared to her current relationship with a woman. She shares this to help others who might feel the same, and to shed light on experiences that some might not fully understand. “I knew I wasn’t being fulfilled emotionally… I knew the men that I was dating weren’t right for me but I held onto them so tightly.” Beyond her powerful personal stories, Madison’s TikTok also features funny skits and occasional sapphic song lyric breakdowns to educational videos on SA. If you follow her, you might spot her wearing some of the pride merch she’s designed!
Jakayla Toney (@jakayla.toneyy)
It’s fun following Jakayla’s (she/her) POV as a bartender at Henrietta’s, one of NYC’s greatest lesbian bars. After overcoming alcohol dependence, she now supports others’ journeys to sobriety by making them fancy mocktails for them.
Jakayla’s posts bring much needed visibility to lesbian spaces and events in NYC. TikToks of the culture at these bars, including the general atmosphere, tips on what drinks to get, and waiting lines, are very helpful to us queer folks, especially baby queers, who are new to these spaces. She also peppers these with hilarious skits based on what she often sees behind the counter, like seeing a frequent customer telling their date they’re the first girl they took there and having to make drinks for her past situationships.
Most popularly, she went viral for summoning Kehlani to The Woods’ Lesbian Night!
Julie Lorentzen (@julieevlorentzen)
Norwegian influencer Julie Lorentzen (she/her) shows us her family life along with her wife (Camilla) and son (Sunny). Aside from funny skits, workout, and sweet romantic videos, the couple shared their pregnancy journey, including their IVF trials and miscarriage. They also take us through the renovation of their home and their little boy, whom Julie cooks yummy treats for.
For a deeper dive into their content, check out their YouTube channel. Here, not only did Julie and Camilla let us into their recovery through miscarriage, but they also did Q&As on important questions about IVF (the hows, costs, how it affects their relationship, etc.) and fertility with their fertility coach, making information more accessible to queer couples who are just starting to build a family.
Nadia Mohebban (@nadiamohebban)
Nadia (she/they) is an Iranian-American actress, writer, and content creator. Her hilarious skits are unique in that they have a movie-like approach with an indie-millennial humor. Think: YouTube in 2007 but queer, timely, and funny. Her top videos include looking for lesbians to date, being an LA lesbian, fending off straight guys, and skits about her straight-but-kinda-gay friends. She went viral for making fun of dressing like a straight girl in response to a New York Post article, “Dressing like a lesbian’ is fashionably sexy for straight women.”
Shantii After Dark 2.0 (@seeshanti2.0)
The poet Shantii’s (she/her) heart wrenching and powerful words, will shake, teach, and change you. Her spoken word poetry from unrequited love to queer heartbreak to rage and beyond! The way she plates her thoughts into gorgeous words dripping in emotion, whew. For example, she teaches us why she doesn’t want to be friends with her ex (a common lesbian trope) in the viral lovers to friends poem:
She asked, “Why can’t we just be friends?” I think it’s better if, when we end, we end. I mean, just having this conversation with you is killing me. We can’t paint over our chemistry, black out our history, or rock our love into a permanent sleep with friendship soliloquies. What’s the point of starting over with diluted titles, pretending like we’d be perfectly content to watch each other fall in love with someone new and pop out as an item? Instead of calling you my love, I have to call you by your name, or “bro” instead of “babe.” What’s there to hold on to anyway? Our love story went from rose-tinted to black and gray. I guess it’s because the color of love is drained.
So no, I don’t want your friendship as a participation trophy. I gotta get used to side hugs, instead of the way that you would hold me? Our story ran too deep; I can’t be your friend. I would never get over you. I just can’t see myself dapping you up instead of holding you. I don’t need your friendship as a consolation prize. Like every time I look at you, I won’t think of the ways you made me cry. And it took months for my river of tears to run dry. I’d rather have none than some of you. Lovers to friends hurts too much, in case you didn’t know.
But I’m still rooting for your happiness. I hope you eventually heal and grow. For some people, lovers to friends works out in the end. But that just won’t be our story. I don’t see a reason for us to continue. It’d be like living in an infinite cliffhanger. So unfortunately, I think it’s best if we just go from lovers to strangers”
Shantii also creates poetry about certain issues, such as complicated parent-children relationships. On one, she spoke, “You made toxicity normal to me / … / I was a child who needed saving / Now I’m an adult who hates asking for help / … / Even though I love you to death / We will never parent the same,” which may resonate with queer folks with ambivalent relationships with their parents.
Avery Cyrus (@averycyrus)
Avery Cyrus (she/her) became famous on TikTok for her lip-syncing, comedy skits, trends, her endless amount of skills (see below), and her romantic history with fellow TikTok star Soph Mosca and later Jojo Siwa (which did not end well). Here are just a few of Avery’s talents:
- Creating a baby skateboard from scratch using resin (her most-liked TikTok video where she)
- Home renovation
- Whipped coffee
- Hand-pulled cotton candy
- Creating all sorts of slime
- Stunning pottery
- Making kimchi from scratch, yum
- Very cool skateboarding
She built a substantial following by being authentic and relatable, often sharing personal experiences, discussing her sexuality and its nuances, and supporting the LGBTQ+ community. Avery is also recognized for promoting body positivity, inclusivity, and being a role model for young queer people.
Ocean Van Exel (@oceanvanexel)
Ocean (she/her) is a model loved for her queer-forward style, which intersects both femme and masc, perfectly capturing the female gaze with leather pants, vests, and cool jewelry like a choker watch. Very creative. She also flaunts stunning curly and protective hairstyles.
In addition to fashion, Ocean also discusses makeup and the lesbian experience. In one video, she affirmed how she loves being with a masc, “I feel like the definition of ‘gentleman’ was truly made for masc women… The chivalry is unmatched… They pay attention to everything. Also, whenever we’re out in public together, my brain just turns off. And that’s because I just feel so protected…” So true! And then she shows us how to also pamper our masc girlfriends; don’t they deserve flowers too?!
While she gives empowering dating and flirting tips, she also emphasizes that like heteros, WLW relationships are also not all rainbows and butterflies. She’s pointed out one of the biggest lesbian red flags she avoids is if someone assigns traditional gender roles in the relationship, “That s*** was created by the heteros, and we [queers] are far away from that.” Such a hot topic that needs to be discussed more! (Unless of course that’s what you respectfully want in your relationship).
Most gorgeously, Ocean also uses her platform for serious issues like TW: SA, misinformation and human rights, and the need to over-explain her identity to straight men, “I think the worst part about it is that I felt like I have to over-explain my identity to strangers… Especially as a femme, it’s annoying and upsetting that you have to constantly have to go through coming out all the time to men.” On the brighter side, more people thanks to Ocean are inspired to make space for cultural shifts and conversations like these.
Danae Hays (@danaehays)
Danae Hays (she/her) is a former college softball player now TikTok comedy star/singer from Alabama who shares entertaining videos about her life with Californian wife Mandie. Despite being from a conservative state, Danae takes on her lesbian identity and Southern roots—she posts skits that poke fun at both.
Danae started bringing out her hilarious characters to her sold-out stand-up comedy tour in July 2024. She gives credit to her supportive fans who just let her be herself. Some of her most viral videos are her phone call pranks which will make your day!
Not only does Danae give visibility to the queer community in the south, but to those who also experience challenges in their family relationships. On the I’m Fine It’s Fine Podcast, she opened up about her mother, “I had so many family members…saying, ‘Just meet her where she’s at’ or ‘She’s going to change’ …[but] then, I was like, you know what? I’m just going to actually stop thinking through that lens. If [my mother] changes, she changes. If she doesn’t, I’m still going to go on and prosper and become the person I want to become and I’m not going to live in this state of victimhood anymore.’” But thankfully, Danae also has a supportive system. On the podcast Couple Things with Shawn & Andrew, she shared, “my dad is just my biggest cheerleader.”
Alyson & Rachael (@alysonandrachael)
Alyson & Rachael (she/her) are fan fiction writers turned New York Times bestselling authors for their sapphic book, She Gets The Girl. But they’re also outstanding writers, individually. Alyson’s novel Forget Me Not made it into the 2023 National Book Award for Young People’s Literature Longlist. Meanwhile, Rachael’s Five Feet Apart, another NYT’s bestseller, was adapted as a major motion picture.
Yay, we love seeing more sapphic books on the shelves and screens!
Imagine having writing work dates with your partner… Sigh. The couple often joke that their marriage, having their kid, and all these accomplishments are all brought by the fact that they sat in the same English class. Is it just me or does their story sound straight out of a novel that got me wishing for my plot twist?
Not only do Alyson and Rachael shed visibility on multiracial married couples, but show us how talented and accomplished queer women can be! They’re also hilarious with funny skits like falling for a queerbait and the authors’ struggle for picking up baby names because they used their favorite ones on their books—a very good problem!
Courtney Vondran (@courtneytheexplorer)
Courtney Vondran (they/them) travels the world sharing queer gems and safe destinations for gaycationers by pinning queer-friendly gayborhoods, towns, and cities from Chicago, their hometown, and beyond. They also recommend specific queer-friendly spots like campgrounds, beaches, lesbian bars, and accommodations. Check out their U.S.A. gay travel bucket list here.
After feeling unsafe camping with their partner in Nevada, Courtney wanted to help other queer travelers. On Adventure.com, they shared, “While travel planning, queer folks have to become familiar with the anti-LGBTQ+ laws of different states and countries and hostility from civilians. It’s a burden we carry,” and they continued, “Going to a gay campground made me never want to stay at a non-gay campground again.”
Tori (@heyitstoriiiiii)
Tori (she/her) blesses us with late-bloomer lesbian tips, queer advice, and other much-needed conversations! Her TikTok videos are very enlightening to baby gays, especially to those who just ended their heterosexual relationships. “I get a lot of DMs from girls who are trying to end their long-term male partnerships, and they find the guilt extremely difficult… This is something we need to talk about more because so many women are staying in relationships when they know they’re gay because they feel bad for their male partner,” she shares.
Check out her videos on some things to expect in your first queer relationship and first-time intimacy with women, where she was once shared being stunned by a girl asking her preferences in bed because she wasn’t ever asked that question in heterosexual relationships. Whew! She also talks about limerence in lesbian dating, which is, and I quote her, “a state of infatuation or obsession with another person that involves all-consuming passion and intrusive thoughts.” Conversations like these help queer folks with mindloop thoughts be more mindful when navigating lesbian relationships.
So, if you’re a late bloomer and still exploring your sexuality, you might feel seen by Tori’s videos. She also sprinkles her feed with her fashionable outfit checks!
Lily-Rose (@itslilyrose)
Ghanaian-Indian-British TikToker and model Lily-Rose (she/her) started posting on the app with lipsync videos, but things started moving for her when she started using her own voice. Lily-Rose first came out as bisexual to her audience before she did to her family through a song. In an interview with Unicorn Zine, she shared that she got so many DMs asking her how to come out and thanking her for inspiring them to do the same. She also culturally contributes to discussions on queer gender expressions, challenging labels and binaries. “I just like what I like. I don’t want to be put in like a box based [on] my sexuality. And I don’t understand why… society is so pressurizing for someone to be like ‘I’m gay, I’m bi, I’m pan. Who cares?’ Let me like what I like and let me live my life,” she later clarified her sexuality.
And she does more than represent Asian-American queer folks online, she post hilariously relatable videos with her family representing her multicultural roots.
And of course, like the queen she is, Lily Rose uses her platform for raising awareness on certain social issues like police brutality against Black and queer people unprompted. See her #BlackLivesMatter TikTok skit she posted in 2020.
Soph Mosca (@sophmosca)
Soph (she/her) is a former competitive dancer so it’s no wonder why a lot of us find her dance routines and trends irresistible. Through these, her lifestyle videos, and comedic skits, she gained millions of followers on TikTok. On the Made It Out podcast, the Gen Z influencer shared how affirming being on TikTok was to her, “Because of the way the algorithm works, all of the sudden my algorithm was just a bunch of queer women…. you get so much validation… It also introduced me to so many friends.”
Not only did Soph use the app as a platform for coming out, but she also shared her then lesbian relationship with fellow TikTok star Avery Cyrus (also in the list). She explains, “It was a good influence to people to… see like, ‘Oh, I can have that, too.’” But, sadly, things don’t always work out. Yet, she doesn’t shy away from showing the struggles of having had a public relationship online and the struggles of lesbian dating.
Outside of relationship talks, dance moves, and trends Soph also shares her personal experiences, including her Type 1 Diabetes diagnosis, helping raise awareness about the condition. Thanks for keeping it real, Soph.
Nicole Maple Coenen (@nicole_coenen)
Nicole (she/her) exemplifies strength, outdoors, and athleticism for women. You might have already seen her chopping wood logs in half using an ax or sword. She also educates her viewers on different types of wood and how to forge and reconstruct an ax. Nicole also shares her learnings from nature, encouraging her audience to spend time in nature.
In one video, she therapeutically explains, “This is a mess. We’re gonna to call this one, ‘The Patriarchy’. Just a big, old, massive, problematic knots. And we’re just gonna rip off this outer layer. It’s just making the wood look tough, but it’s so fragile… Let’s smash it. Now we burn it.” Ahhh, I love it.
Mak Ingemi (@makingemi)
Lesbian influencer Mak Ingemi’s (she/her) funny skits, heartfelt POVs, and her take on important conversations about social issues resonate with us. We love her chapstick/soft-masc outfits and hairstyles, a much needed inspiration for queer fashion. She also recounts tons of personal queer experiences, such as when a man made her coming-out about himself and the struggles of finding queer friends at a certain point. Mak also shares honest relationship advice and lifestyle videos that feature chapstick lesbian fits and GRWMs. Her workout and wall-climbing videos encourage her audience to stay active even indoors. Some of her earlier TikTok videos feature her younger sister, who is behind some of her thirst traps. They have a very wholesome sister relationship! She also posts educational long form videos on her YouTube channel.
TikTok has become a platform for queer visibility. BIPOC creators, including Black, Latina, and Asian influencers of the queer and lesbian community, are using it to share stories and perspectives that are often missing from mainstream media. Their content goes beyond entertainment; it offers important insights into identity, culture, and relationships. TikTok has changed America.
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